Society’s understanding of the vast spectrum of sensations and ways of exploring intimacy with our partners that people can experience has expanded a great deal in recent years. The popularity of books and movies such as “50 Shades of Grey,” “The Story of O,” and Anne Rice’s “Sleeping Beauty Quartet” have brought the idea of playing with themes of dominance and submission out of the shadows and into the mainstream.
We are proud to offer seminars, books, and toys, to aid in the exploration of this rich and complex area of sexual adventure, as well as links to information and articles that we think you may find valuable.
My eSensuals & Wintersong Tashlin Present: The Beyond 50 Shades Seminar Series
These informative and fun seminars, taught by nationally known sexuality and kink educator Wintersong Tashlin, are designed to help people find ways to incorporate themes from “50 Shades of Grey” and similar works into their own lives. For dates and times, see our Events & Classes page.
Bringing 50 Shades Home
You’ve read the 50 Shades of Grey book and seen the movie and you’re feeling inspired, but where do you go from here? This session, taught by a nationally known adult educator, will look at ways that people play with these sorts of themes in their own lives in safe and fulfilling ways.
Communicating Desire: It Doesn’t Have To Be Scary
Talking to partners about our desires can leave us feeling vulnerable and exposed. These aren’t conversations that we’ve been taught how to have. This session provides concrete strategies for how, when, and yes, whether, to broach erotic topics, as well as how to hear and respond to other people’s expressions of desire
Roleplay For Erotic Exploration
Exploring our desires can take us out of our comfort zones through experimenting with roles and activities that are unfamiliar. This seminar teaches ways to using tools from erotic roleplay, that can helps us feel safer about venturing into new kinds of erotic expression.
Physical Skills For “50 Shades” Play
The physical play in “50 Shades of Grey” is not difficult, but there are some tricks and tips to getting the most out of it in a safe and healthy way. This session teaches techniques for spanking, sensation play, light impact play, introductory bondage, wax play, and several other forms of “kinky fuckery” you can take home and explore.
Articles & Links
Here are some online resources that we think you may find helpful
- BDSM 101 – a guide to terminology and concepts put together by the folks from Transcending Boundaries
- Recognizing the difference between BDSM and abuse – An excellent resource from The Network/La Red
- Communication strategies for talking about kinky desires
- Safe-sex information for BDSM – ACT has put together an amazing guide, viewable at this link, to STI prevention in kink play
Books That Go Beyond “50 Shades”
Here are a selection of our favorite books on a variety of forms of alternative and kinky erotic expression. You can see these and more in the books section of our online store.
- 50 Shades of Kink
World-renowned sexuality educator and author Tristan Taormino provides a guide for dipping your toes in the waters of kinky play in a book Dan Savage called “indispensable”
- A Little Bit Kinky
Written by a sex therapist and clinical sexologist, this fun book for couples is all about simple, sexy, and low-pressure ways to add a bit of sizzle to your relationship by introducing kinky elements to sexual routines that have grown familiar.
- The Loving Dominant (3rd Edition)
John and Libby Warren’s classic book on BDSM covers a vast array of topics related to alternative relationships including dominance and submission, toys, kinky photography, and more.